A Bride With IBS

By the time our wedding day arrived, my partner and I were more relaxed than most of our family members. Having lived together for a while (6 years!), we already knew each other’s habits and quirks, including how to manage my IBS. Our wedding day felt like a natural continuation of the life we had built together, not the high-stress whirlwind it can be for some couples.

Careful planning

Although IBS was always in the background, we approached the day with careful planning and a laid-back attitude. We made sure that neither stress nor stomach troubles would take the spotlight.

One major advantage of living together before marriage was learning how to handle big events. My partner and I were calmer than our families, who were more anxious over last-minute details like floral arrangements and seating plans. We remained at ease, knowing this day symbolized what we had already built.

A calm mind doesn't always mean a calm stomach

But a calm mind doesn’t always mean a calm stomach, especially with IBS. I knew my body could react unpredictably on such an emotional day. To minimize any risk, I started the morning with a slow, mindful routine—sipping warm tea, doing breathing exercises, and staying present.

One of my biggest concerns was the food. Wedding receptions often feature rich, indulgent meals that can be a nightmare for an IBS-sensitive stomach. Luckily, meal-planning and managing my dietary needs had become second nature. We worked with the restaurant to include a variety of options, so both the guests and I could enjoy the meal. While everyone else enjoyed typical wedding delights, I had IBS-friendly dishes like risotto, light fish, and steamed veggies. This allowed me to eat confidently, without stress.

Controlling what I could

Our time living together had given us plenty of practice in managing small stresses, which helped me stay calm on the big day. My partner knew that anxiety could trigger my IBS, so we focused on keeping things light and fun. We joked with friends and family, took everything in stride, and didn’t let the small hiccups bother us.

I also made sure to familiarize myself with the venue, especially the bathrooms—an IBS essential! The restaurant manager was very supportive, giving us access to a private room with its own bathroom. My dress was big, and I needed some help from friends to hold it, which will forever be one of the funniest memories of that day.

When we stood at the altar, I felt fully present. The day unfolded just as we had hoped, filled with love, laughter, and memories to last a lifetime. My IBS didn’t interfere at all. I enjoyed every part of the reception, from dancing to toasting with our guests, feeling completely at ease. What a gift!

Expected the worst; got the best

We had joked about potential IBS emergencies, but none happened. I credit that to thoughtful preparation, my supportive partner, and keeping the day stress-free. We had expected the worst, but got the best instead.

Now that we’re married, not much has changed since we had already been living together, but our bond feels stronger. My partner has always been understanding, and that support continues to grow as we navigate married life. We still meal-plan with care and make sure I’m comfortable, whether at home or out.

Living with IBS doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy life’s big moments. With some planning and a loving, supportive partner, you can have the wedding day of your dreams—just like we did. Our day wasn’t about perfection; it was about celebrating who we are, quirks and all.