Hey , that's a great question. We aren't able to give medical advice here but hopefully someone will be able to chime in about their experience with stool softeners. Have you ever asked your doctor about this?
I pulled an article about constipation that I think you might find helpful. I would recommend scrolling through the comments where other members share some tips for dealing with their symptoms. https://irritablebowelsyndrome.net/living/chronic-constipation
I hope you get some answers soon! Sending warm thoughts - Kat (Team Member)