How do you deal with distention in your social life?
I'm 18 years old and I have IBS for almost one year now. Since I was stressed to do my best at high school and had a long time with depression, I have been through embarrassing situations several times and I'm already having suicidal thoughts because I can't do anything in my life. Social anxiety is now a huge issue for me, my main problem is the intestinal gas and distention especially when I'm with coworkers or at a class. Even if i go to the toilet nothing gets better.
I get so nervous that my stomach aches or sounds of stomach cramps happen. I have social anxiety now because of that, I don't go to my classes those I paid a lot for anymore avoiding embarrassment because the people I meet don't understand my illness unfortunately and they often make fun of me. Now I feel like I'm a bad person and have very low self esteem, I've seen many doctors and the medicines are not really helping.
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. Please know you are not alone in this struggle and so many of us here understand what you're going through. I've had IBS for about 10 years now and I remember how tough it was for me in the beginning. I was on a dark path for a very long time because I struggled with describing and being vulnerable about my embarrassing pain. I was truly a very miserable and depressed person for many years. And I tell you what - it never stops getting tough. However, you do become stronger and more resilient as time goes on. Honestly, you will learn so much more about yourself in this journey, which should give you better days to look forward to because you will eventually learn to create and lead a lifestyle the best fits you. Therefore, please never give up and keep fighting because we are all here to support you along the way.
With that being said, to finally answer your question: The way I dealt with my IBS symptoms, such as gas pains or distention, when I was in school is I would try to make the experience as comfortable as possible for myself. For instance, I would normally sit in the back of the class or in a section closest to the door in case I needed to run to the bathroom for an emergency. I would communicate my condition and health concerns to my teachers and close friends, and I would also wear looser clothes so that I don't feel any added pressure on my stomach or body. Also, I made sure to watch my diet when I was out in public as well.
Another thing I learned in my IBS journey is that some people will understand and others won't understand your IBS issues. Therefore, don't focus on the ones who don't understand and try to surrounded yourself around those who not only understand but also care and support. Also, it takes a while to find what works best for you, so be patient with yourself and don't give up. Don't be mean or harsh on yourself either, especially on your bad days because none of this is your fault. Don't hold on to anger because anger will only cloud your mind with unnecessary stresses and anxiety. Stay strong, positive, and hopeful that you will see better days because you know you will be working hard for those better days. I believe you have a lot of fight in you, Muhammed, and, again, please know you are not alone on this journey. We are all in this together, so please never hesitate to reach out for support. Thank you for taking the time to ask your question and I truly hope you feel a sense of support and belonging in our community. We are always here for you.
Sincerely,
Hess, IrritableBowelSyndrome.net Team member
