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IBS is a Huge Pain in My You Know What

IBS is a huge pain in my you know what, both literally and figuratively. Because this condition puts me in the bathroom so frequently, I get hemorrhoids quite often – hence, the literal pain in my anus. TMI, I know! But I had to just come out and say that because it’s something that is a reality for me and many others with the syndrome as well. It comes with the territory and I can’t help that it happens to me. Thus, I find myself constantly annoyed and in pain by my IBS for this and so many other reasons.

Annoying IBS strikes again!

It’s on days like this that I especially find my IBS to be an extreme literal pain in my behind. A few days ago, my wife made chili for dinner and I’ve been suffering ever since. I know, chili and IBS don’t typically mix well, but at the time I didn’t care because it tasted so good! On top of that, my wife specifically made it less spicy so that I could avoid having a major flare-up. But now I regret eating it, and can’t even look at chili anymore because I have been non-stop going to the toilet and it feels like my anus is literally screaming in agony, “Help me!” It hurts so bad every time I sit down, and wince at the thought of having to use the bathroom yet again.

I’m really upset that this happened because not only did IBS give me a literal pain in my butt, but it also ruined one of my favorite dishes of all time. Leave it up to IBS to sabotage your day and your appetite all at once! I’m so exhausted from all the bowel movements I’ve had today, that I feel like I can barely move. Anyone else with IBS feels extremely fatigued after BMs?

IBS interrupts at the worst time

Another way that IBS becomes a nuisance is by interrupting me every time I try to be productive. Can you imagine trying to get work done but then you keep getting interrupted by a painful cramp or a loud disruptive gurgle in your stomach? Those sensations clearly indicate that you have to run to the restroom, but you literally just sat down and started working five minutes ago! How can anyone complete any important tasks in a timely manner when you can’t even focus for long without IBS reminding you it’s there?

This is only a minor scenario where IBS can bother me at an inconvenient time, and there are so many other moments where it gets worse. IBS can also disrupt a person’s love life, sex life, social life, career – you name it, and it’s possible. This is one of the many reasons why I want to raise and spread awareness about irritable bowel syndrome – to stress how much it can negatively impact a person’s quality of life.

Still not used to the pain of IBS

So, IBS has been a literal and figurative pain in my behind for years. You would think I would be used to the phases when my IBS acts up so bad, but it hits me like a ton of bricks every time. Times like this tend to leave me in a depressive state, and my self-esteem gets cut in half or almost diminished completely. I am reminded about my shortcomings and then I dwell in the misery until it starts to affect other areas of my life. It takes a lot of discipline to even recognize it when it happens, but even more when it comes down to doing something about it. And although it’s never easy dealing with IBS being a huge pain in my you know where I at least am better equipped with knowledge and tenacity to get through these miserable times a little better than before. I just take it one day at a time.

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Comments

  • frustratedinnm
    1 month ago

    Oh my gosh…can I ever relate! When the pain of my butt and anus flare up, I’m known to be crying from pain in the bathroom trying to do my business.
    I use baby BUTT PASTE and TUCKS for the hemorrhoid pain. Works great for me.

  • tmholland moderator
    1 month ago

    @frustratedinnm,

    While I’m sorry that you go through pain like that, I am happy to here that you have found some things that help relieve it. So glad you could relate to the article, I know I did :-). I hope you are having a good day. -Todd, IrritableBowelSyndrome.net Team

  • DorisE
    1 month ago

    I have many of same issues; being female have to be careful what ointments etc. are used in that area, as other feminine areas close by.. I used to use a Sitz bath after, of what relief, even if for a short time, but then started to get UTI’s and thought oh no, the water in the Sitz bath probably has fecal contamination so stopped. I dont even have a bath any more. As far as ointment, I have three kinds from Dr. but I would, as moderator suggested, check the side effects etc. as even ointments can add to the problems. What I have been doing lately is baby zinc ointment, a little on one of those flat cotton makeup pads, and put that in the area. It keeps the ointment there but as you realize, sometimes just get myself all fixed up and back to the bathroom. I have had the worst year in 2018 and would like to write about it in another section: and 2019 not a lot better: yes we should be thankful that we are not even more ill, but this on its worst days is a lot to contend with and my sympathies go to everyone with it. They heart disease is the silent disease, well I know its not the same, but this is a silent/hidden illness that unless you experience it yourself, can only sympathize.

  • Kelly Dabel, RD moderator
    1 month ago

    Thanks for sharing your experience DorisE. Glad you have found some strategies that are helping you feel better. We appreciate you being part o four community. Best, Kelly, Irritablebowelsyndrome.net Team Member

  • perrinnn
    1 month ago

    One thing that helps me (but is not a blanket cure) is using 5% Lidocaine Ointment. I put a bunch on some TP and push it in about 1/2 inch and a small swirl to insure saturation. Also since I am a man the ointment can affect my prostrate and prevent me from urination. I make sure and finish my business before I apply ointment. This ointment is a lifesaver for someone who lives with lifelong IBS. It is also very nice in a pinch for anyone with painful symptoms. —-Freidrich .E.W.

  • Kelly Dabel, RD moderator
    1 month ago

    Thank you for sharing what you’ve found to help you feel better and bring relief! It’s a good idea for anyone here who may be interested to first check in with your doctor before starting any new treatments, including over the counter. We so appreciate you sharing Freidrich! Wishing you relief ahead. Best, Kelly, Irritablebowelsyndrome.net Team Member

  • JudyStaed
    1 month ago

    Hess, I feel your pain…both emotionally and physically. I wish i didn’t know so well what your words say here. My husband says I am disabled but no one can see it. I live in constant anxiety. My IBS is in both fields. I can be constipated for a few days and then the diarrhea starts again. I HATE to make any kind of plans because the thoughts are always there…what if that’s one of the really bad days and how will I get through it? I have constant digestive distress from the time I take my first bite of food in the morning. The bloat starts immediately and only grows worse during the day. Also, with each and every passing year there are more and more foods I can’t eat. God forbid I get any spices…I will pay for it. Anyway, the major point I wish to address here is what I call dripping faucet syndrome of the butt. Yes, I can be on the toilet…get off…walk four feet thinking the worst is behind me and then have to rush back to the toilet. I wipe and wipe and wipe. The hemorrhoids start to bleed from the wiping. Then it hurts to sit down when I’m finally out of the bathroom. Yup, leaking faucet syndrome of the butt. That’s what it is to me. I will get done with the major attack but then a little more and a little more and a little more. My hemorrhoids bleed. I feel your stress in life. Moreover, I totally understand what you go through. I feel the torment you live with. I have reached the point where I resent food because I know suffering can come with ingesting it but I know I have to eat for my health. Hess, you are not alone in your battle. Others out there understand exactly what you are living with. My goal in life now is to just totally enjoy every minute where I’m not suffering. I live in the bliss of the more quiet times.

  • Kelly Dabel, RD moderator
    1 month ago

    Thank you for sharing your story JudyStaed. I hope this article reminded you that you are not alone here. I know many in our community can relate to the Dripping Faucet Syndrome you mentioned. Love your outlook to strive to enjoy every minute whenever you can. Thank you for being part of our community. Best, Kelly, Irritablebowelsyndrome.net Team Member

  • Emily
    1 month ago

    Yes. I relate. It’s worrisome and miserable. I keep Balmex in my house always for this very reason. I have even taken it with me if I’m gone all day. It does help.

  • tmholland moderator
    1 month ago

    @emily,

    Thank you for sharing, Emily. We like to hear when someone has found something that helps them, even just a little. Glad the article resonated with you. Hope you are well today. -Todd, IrritableBowelSyndrome.net Team

  • Jewel
    1 month ago

    I totally can relate! IBS really does affect all areas of a person’s life and there should be more awareness and understanding. I have even had to lay down at work from an excruciating cramping attack. I also have severe RA with very bent and twisted and alot of pain. That people can see, but the hidden pain of IBS affects my days just as much. Very good article !

  • Kelly Dabel, RD moderator
    1 month ago

    Thanks for your feedback Jewel. Glad this article was helpful to you. We appreciate you sharing your story and experience. So hard to have an attack come on in the most inconvenient times, like while at work. You may also be interested in our Rheumatoid Arthritis Community, if you haven’t heard about it already. http://www.rheumatoidarthritis.net. Wishing you relief ahead. Best, Kelly, Irritablebowelsyndrome.net Team Member

  • DOLLLADY
    1 month ago

    I am right there with you on this one…and most everything else you post! you very few people mention hemmoroids but I would think it is a fact of life with most ibs sufferers.
    what amazes me is that so many people don’t seem to take anything for their ibs..i couldn’t get out the door without some kind of meds to slow it down..i take Immodium..daily, not just sometimes.
    can anyone comment on this, am I the only one who tries to control it instead of ti controlling me?

  • seebabsrun
    1 month ago

    I, too, take Imodium daily. Without it, the cramps and urgency accelerate and intensify with each bowel movement and the intervals shorten. That is what is most frustrating; making sure that I’m done (which sometimes means the bowel equivalent of dry heaves, with unproductive pushing and irresistible cramping) before taking meds to stop it. Too soon, and I’m fighting my body; too late, and I end up needing more meds. Phazyme has helped with the visceral hypersensitivity.

  • Kelly Dabel, RD moderator
    1 month ago

    Thanks for your feedback and for reaching out DOLLLADY. Thanks Emily for sharing what you do! I hope others also chime in with their personal experiences to share with you. Have you spoken with your doctor about using Imodium daily? Is it helping you feel better or causing more issues by stopping things up too much? As Emily shared, Imodium may be too strong for some to take everyday but certainly many in our community use it as needed and have it on hand to travel. Here’s an article on the many treatment options, that you may find helpful: https://irritablebowelsyndrome.net/treatment/. Wishing you relief ahead. Best, Kelly, Irritablebowelsyndrome.net Team member

  • Emily
    1 month ago

    I will use Imodium only after going many times and I have to go somewhere. Otherwise I don’t bc I feel better getting it out than stopping it.

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